Texting has its merits. You have time to craft your words so that you can communicate what you truly mean to say. Gone are the Freudian slips of face-to-face and phone communication. Whether that means you are more genuine, or less, I can't say, but texting does allow a more thoughtful reply.
Sometimes I wonder, however, whether a person is actually more truthful in his or her instinctive replies than in his or her polished ones. I think this is why I sometimes feel a little cynical of planned public speaking, because it is sometimes difficult to tell whether a person is crafting his or her speech simply to cater to the audience rather than, say, offering his or her raw thoughts on the subject.
I guess I yearn for a person's true beliefs (though I am hypocritical in this as well, because I wouldn't want people to spout out expletives or improprieties of speech because they didn't have the time to think through their words). As a teacher, too, I am conscious of the conflict between a need to present information in a clear, concise, and entertaining way; and the need to be genuine and open with others about yourself and your true thoughts. In any case, I believe, the standard of maturity in a public speaker is the point at which she can reconcile this conflict, and be both.
I suppose this desire for genuineness is why I prefer talking. Texting precludes voice tone and body language, which are both really important aspects of communicating with others. A person can say one thing, but communicate another, with his or her tone of voice and body language; and that more hidden message says more than a person's words.
As a result, there are fewer walls thrown up between two persons when there is phone or (especially) face-to-face talking. Either you learn to control your body language and tone of voice, and to craft your words in a way that sounds the way you want them to sound; or you let others see you more clearly. In short, phone conversation, and especially face-to-face talking, lead to more openness.
Sometimes I wonder, however, whether a person is actually more truthful in his or her instinctive replies than in his or her polished ones. I think this is why I sometimes feel a little cynical of planned public speaking, because it is sometimes difficult to tell whether a person is crafting his or her speech simply to cater to the audience rather than, say, offering his or her raw thoughts on the subject.
I guess I yearn for a person's true beliefs (though I am hypocritical in this as well, because I wouldn't want people to spout out expletives or improprieties of speech because they didn't have the time to think through their words). As a teacher, too, I am conscious of the conflict between a need to present information in a clear, concise, and entertaining way; and the need to be genuine and open with others about yourself and your true thoughts. In any case, I believe, the standard of maturity in a public speaker is the point at which she can reconcile this conflict, and be both.
I suppose this desire for genuineness is why I prefer talking. Texting precludes voice tone and body language, which are both really important aspects of communicating with others. A person can say one thing, but communicate another, with his or her tone of voice and body language; and that more hidden message says more than a person's words.
As a result, there are fewer walls thrown up between two persons when there is phone or (especially) face-to-face talking. Either you learn to control your body language and tone of voice, and to craft your words in a way that sounds the way you want them to sound; or you let others see you more clearly. In short, phone conversation, and especially face-to-face talking, lead to more openness.
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